Posted by: mlsweet11 | April 24, 2013

“You are more beautiful than you think”

Watch this video below first!

If you’ve spent anytime with me you will know that I am always pointing out what possible or not depending on what we create in our minds. As a health and fitness coach I often hear from clients, especially when I first start working with them, “I’m not ___ enough,” “my _____ is too fat, wide, short, long, saggy, flabby,” “I can’t ______,” or “I’ll never ______,”etc and to that person that is what is real. Even in a recent class after giving someone a compliment on how lean they are, they immediately went to “oh yeah but my butt is still flabby, ick,” and I looked at her like I DON’T SEE THAT AT ALL! I am guilty of doing this as well in all sorts of areas of my life. So why is it that we view ourselves one way, just as it is shown in the video above, and when others acknowledge us we immediately show them the negative side of us?

I see everyone else as a big ball of possibility and I am quick to call someone out on their “but…”. I even grown to a place where I can see all that is possible for myself and yet I do limit myself with the “oh yeah but…” as well. Why do I(we) not grant that ourselves that same clearing for what’s possible that we see in others? We are all just like children born into this world with a clean slate and with work, patience, love and acceptance we can reach our true potential! This is why it is so important to keep developing as a human being to uncover what we don’t know that we don’t know either with a coach, an educational experience, spiritual practice, etc.

I am reading a book right now called the The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level and Gay Hendricks writes about something he calls the Upper Limit. One of the 4 barriers to success and happiness mentioned is that when we experience success or positivity we begin to bring ourselves back down to avoid looking better than others. Usually this pattern starts when we are young or society tells us to fit in we shouldn’t “brag or boast,” about ourselves. Honestly I can say that when I acknowledge a person and if they kindly respond with a “thank you” or “that means a lot thanks,” it warms my heart much more than when they immediately cut right to their negative. Them being negative doesn’t make me feel better, it makes me feel worse. What if we all began to say thank you instead of pulling out the negative card?

So after seeing this dove ad, reading this book and then hearing the ladies in my class this morning I request that we all begin to listen to what we say to ourselves and out loud to others. When you look in the mirror in the morning what are you saying? When someone compliments you what do you say back? How does it make you feel when you acknowledge someone else and they quickly cut themselves back down?

I want to hear from you so leave thoughts and comments below!

Are you up for a sweetlife challenge? Next time someone acknowledges you in some way, pausing let it sink in…really sink in, then simply smile and say thank you!

Posted by: mlsweet11 | April 8, 2013

A clearing

“This nation was built by men who took risks – pioneers who were not afraid of the wilderness, business men who were not afraid of failure, scientists who were not afraid of the truth, thinkers who were not afraid of progress, dreamers who were not afraid of action.”

– Brooks Atkinson

“Every great work, every big accomplishment, has been brought into manifestation through holding to the vision, and often just before the big achievement, comes apparent failure and discouragement.”

– Florence Scovel Shinn

Today was the last day of the open. The end of a season and the beginning of the next. In order to create a new space I needed to climb to the highest point for a new perspective. So today I got outside in nature and went for a hike. I could feel the burn in my legs as I made my way up the peak. I learn and grow through training and testing my physical body and recently i’ve been facing a loss of full use in my shoulder and neck. As I climbed so did my gratitude for what my body gives me in order to compete and test my fitness.
I believe all things are for good and I give thanks for my body and giving me legs and lungs to climb new heights!

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Inside of this clearing today I could stand and look out at all that is ahead of me! Ready to embrace what’s next with an open heart and arms!

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Posted by: mlsweet11 | January 5, 2013

Our deepest fear?

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.’ We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson

This is one of my all time favorite quotes. Being someone who is not afraid to fail and more so afraid to fly this rings loud for me. Something inside of me says if you do this than you will be different, they will expect more of you, you will be a leader and being a leader means people count on you and you may let them down, you may loose freedom and control. I could go on and on about this one, but all that noise is just human conditioning and  “Your playing small does not serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.”

Reading this today I was reminded of how sometimes I play small so that others won’t feel insecure or insignificant around me. Afraid that if I rise up they will blame me for succeeding and making them look bad. It’s just like the kid in school who actually did the assignment or knew the answer when no one else did; what happened to that kid, she got called a suck-up or worse ostracized from the group. It is that fear right there that keeps me and so many other people from being a Steve Jobs, Ghandi, Martin Luther King…but the reality is all those people did differently was they pushed past that. They all faced the group that felt insecure and settled into mediocrity by pushing past that fear and on the other side they attracted those who wanted to make a difference.

Which got me thinking back to my post yesterday about how much I love being around people who are playing big in life and how much the world would be missing out if they shrunk themselves down. Being that I am committed to helping others find their authentic self and reach their fullest potential I am reminded that I must “be the change I wish to see in the world.” I must move beyond fear and shine my light because I truly believe “It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Ask yourself, where are you playing small in life? How would this world be a better place if you let your light shine in that area? Post to comments below!

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